Lightly, Child, Lightly

The other day, I was looking at a roadside coffee shop in rural Tamil Nadu. It was a pit stop. More to sip on nostalgia. Coffee was the excuse. I got both. Nostalgia. Coffee. And a line from Huxley that appeared on cue.

The man behind the counter was working his magic with a giant kettle that hissed and sang like an old friend. The smell of fresh decoction drifted through the morning air. Somewhere in the background, Ilayaraja’s 80s melody played faintly from a radio that had seen better days. There was a very faint nip in the air, and the newspaper hanging by a rusted clip on the stall was still crisp. Proof that the day was just beginning.

The man himself was spotless and alert. A splash of thiruneer, three bright grey lines, shone on his forehead. He moved with a rhythm shaped by years of practice. Pouring, mixing, serving, taking money, returning change. All in one smooth motion. It felt as if time had slowed down to watch him.

There was no tension in his face. No wasted effort. He did not rush, yet he was never still. The kettle tilted at the perfect angle. The coffee arced through the air in a golden stream. The froth landed obediently in its glass. Every act was precise and calm. Ease that comes when you stop fighting your work.

That is when it struck me. Lightness comes from intimacy. When you have done something long enough, you stop proving yourself to it. The dancer stops counting beats. The cricketer stops calculating angles. This man has stopped thinking about coffee.

Aldous Huxley said it perfectly. “It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly, child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly.” Perhaps he had watched this man.

He looked up once, smiled, and went back to his art. The world around him kept moving. Buses honked. Cows crossed. A customer called for an extra spoon of sugar. Yet he was steady, like a monk in the middle of a festival.

It was not grand. Or dramatic. It was simply beautiful. And light.
Ease, brewed fresh.

19 thoughts on “Lightly, Child, Lightly

  1. Naganath Subramanian Iyer says:

    Extremely well written which only Kavi can. Ordinary day observations, getting into nuances, weaving stories and leaving lessons to learn.
    Wow, Kavi…touched, moved and inspired.
    And that quote from Aldous Huxley…wooh

  2. Kavi Arasu says:

    Thanks much Sir! In the ordinary, I thrive! 🙂

  3. Rohit says:

    Lovely reflection Kavi ! Took me to the IAF conference session I attended on Kabir Das and his Doha – ‘Dheere dheere re mana, dheere sub kuch hoye’ .. mastery takes time .. and lightness from intimacy could be it’s secret !

  4. Kavi Arasu says:

    Thank you so much Rohit! I must dig more into it.

  5. Preetham says:

    A thoughtfully written blog by Kavi that explores passion beyond the boundaries of work. Thanks Kavi for sharing.

  6. Kavi Arasu says:

    Thanks much Preetham! On the ground, I am not sure it is as much passion, as much as it is livelihood for this man. Practice over the years makes it all fluid!

  7. Gopalakrishnan says:

    When we start doing something for ourself without performance for others to validate, then automatically that becomes light

  8. Kavi Arasu says:

    Thanks Gopal. That is true. In this case, imagine if the coffee didnt taste well. The validation will directly be in business terms. Perhaps it is the practice and a certain focus in the present moment that counts.

  9. Mrunal says:

    Perfectly responded Rohit. I was there in the session.

    Kavi, his observation, and reflection about the observation is so endearing!

  10. Kavi Arasu says:

    Thanks so much Mrunal! Greatly appreciated

  11. Abhijit says:

    Inspiring blogpost Kavi. Remarkable observation that warns us not to be dismissive of apparently trifle things. As eloquently put by A c Grayling in one of his books

    ‘ Trifles are the texture of history; in minutiae lie truths, and there can be more significance attached to events unobvious or apparently mundane than to single grand upheavals.’

  12. Kavi Arasu says:

    Thanks so much Abhijit! Fantastic quote there. I must look him up. Thanks much again.

  13. Asha Balakrishnan says:

    A mundane experience beautifully written. Felt calm after reading it

  14. Kavi Arasu says:

    Thanks much Asha. So glad that this had a calming effect. Grateful.

  15. Purnima Hirudayaraj says:

    Ease, brewed fresh!! Your last line sums it all, Kavi. That was your writing too — fresh and light! I love the way your eyes, soul, and words work together: observe, immerse, and articulate. Lovely, Kavi!

    Your piece reminded me of Khalil Gibran’s lines — though written in a different context:
    “For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.”

    Something sweet percolated deep inside my soul as I read this.
    I feel light… and refreshed.

  16. Kavi Arasu says:

    Thats such a lovely comment Purnima. Warms my heart heart. “For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed” is one my favourite lines from Gibran

  17. Krishnan says:

    Beautifully written Kavi “)

    A gentle reminder that real mastery comes from intimacy, not intensity.

    Reading this, I’m asking myself: where in my life am I still “trying too hard” instead of moving with this kind of light, steady ease?

    Thank you for brewing this reflection.

  18. Nalini Rajesh says:

    Wow Kavi! I am truly impressed!! But this is nothing new for me, as every time that I interact with you or read your article, it is impressive! (Eppadi Kavi?)!!

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