Some conversations stay with you. This was one of them.

The IAF team captured our chat over coffee and hot chocolate in their words. Their reflections offer a glimpse into what we explored. And yet, as with all rich conversations, there was more—more nuance, more layers, more threads left to unravel.

What stood out to me was their curiosity. Their willingness to look inward, question what is, and imagine what could be. In the process, they also helped me examine some of my own beliefs.

Their hospitality was exceptional. The care, the follow-through, and the quiet determination to make this happen made it easy for me to balance this with a busy trip.

And as I left, I found myself thinking—not just about what we had discussed, but about what more is possible for us as a community.

Coffee and conversations can indeed do more.

Now, these are their words as posted below. The original post is here.

“Coffee & Conversations: The Heart Of Facilitation

Some conversations stay with you—like the one we had over hot chocolate with Kavi Arasu. What started as a casual chat became an insightful exploration of what makes facilitation truly impactful.

Mindset Over Methods

Facilitation isn’t about tools or structure—it’s about believing in yourself as the most powerful tool in the room. A great facilitator adapts, navigates group dynamics, and enables transformation. As Kavi Arasu put it: “Results get me high—not the design, not the facilitation.” It’s impact over process.

Fluidity in Facilitation

Facilitators shift roles—sometimes as a teacher, trainer, or expert—to bring clarity. The best sessions aren’t rigid; they evolve with the room. The focus is on listening deeply, building trust, and uncovering perspectives that lead to real, actionable change.

Facilitation as a Way of Being

Great facilitation isn’t about solving problems but creating the space for solutions to emerge. It starts with self-inquiry:
•            Am I truly listening?
•            How can I hold space without imposing my view?
•            What biases do I carry?

The Inner Work

Facilitation begins within. Our impact is tied to our awareness, biases, and ability to hold space. Real change starts with us before it happens in the room.

Kavi also recommended The Fifth Discipline, ICA Methods, and The Power of Facilitation—all valuable resources for facilitators.

A big thank you to Kavi for his time and wisdom. We left with more than insights—we left with a renewed commitment to the art of facilitation.”